I just don’t know what I should do.
It all started when I was 18 years old (I’m 22 now) I met this guy, I’ll call him Allen.. He was homeless and I was finishing up my High schooling and working part time. He was sweet and kind and very cute. I didn’t care that he was homeless (he was 27 at the time) He kept himself clean and decent. We started dating and he got a friend to let him move in. Months went by and he didn’t get a job. About 6 months into our realationship I told him, If you dont get a job i’m leaving.
His mother died to around this time. He alwasy threw it in my face saying “you threatend to leave me if i didn’t get working around the time my mother died…how dare you”
but i felt, if he didn’t get working soon, his depression would go deeper and he would never make anything of himself. He never held a job and he was almost 30. He also had just became clean on Crystal Meth. I myself never touched a drug other then alittle Pot back when i was younger (I do not smoke pot anymore or drink or do anything after i turned 20)
I at this time had quite my job to help him more and was just about to graduate Highschool. He did get a job. His friend and his friends Girlfriend were about to have a baby. We all got a 2 bedroom apartment. Things weren’t going to well with our roomates but between us it was. I had graduated and started working at a call center with Allen. but he started to get very controlling. He wouldn’t want me to hang out with my friends or see family. I then got pregnant. My roomates were alcholics as well as Allen, was always drunk and it was getting worse.
He was very verbally abusive (I was 19 by this point) My aunt had me move to New Jersey with her. That turned out to be a bad situation. Mainly because she and her husband were trying to get me to leave Allen, but I didn’t want to. I was being blind and stupid, but i felt so guitly. I was in love still and being so far away from him made me feel guilty and horrible that i left. Esp while pregnant.
On the 8th month of my pregnancy i moved back to him. We were still living in that hell hole with the room-mates. I had my baby and in about 2 months we got out own apartment. Things went well for a long while.
But there was still controlling issue’s. He to this day (it’s been almost 4 years we have been together) Calls me names that i dont want to repeat. Wont let me see my friends, He’s gone from this nice guy to this controlling emotionally abusive person. I think it’s because he went from having nothing, to being the “man” of the house and the only one paying for bills in such a short time. It’s a power trip for him and it’s gone to his head. He claims i use him for his money, wich is funny cuz when i met him…he had nothing….
HE’s even threatend to punch me in the face. (he’s never phsycially hit me yet…but i feel it will be soon cuz he is gradually threatening more with it)
He refuses to help me with the baby. He works and I stay home. Yes, i dont do anything anymore around the house like I used to because i’m so depressed. He’s made me break off many friendships. I’m not perfect, by anymeans but i can’t talk to him. Everytime i try to say “lets talk about this…it’ s inportant” or “lets make a budget” or “im upset or bothered about this in my life, how about we talk about it”
he just rolls his eyes and wont listen. He always calls me a child and that i’m not very bright.
He treats my cats like crap to. Not caring how i love them as well.
He’s to spoiling to our son. There has been days that i didnt’ sleep. I know that this is normal for parents but when it goes on for 2 days straight i tell him, i cannot stay up anymore. I’ll pass out (our son has some bad sleeping problems and the doctor told me to just put him in his crib and let him cry it out so i can get some rest) Allen told me, if i dare fall asleep he will kick me and my cats out. but I cannot help it if i pass out right? but he says “oh well..deal? What do you do all day anyways? You just watch a kid? you cant be to tired from that?”
He has no concern for my health, or emotional well being.
He is allowed to go anywhere he wants, but if i dare go out or have friends over he gets so angry.
he also has this friend over who treats me really bad. But it does’t mattter…cuz it’s his friend…right?
A while back, he got a large inheritance from his step father that passed away,
It all got spent. It was about 20 Thousand dollars, we now have about 5 thousand. I had spent about a good 3 grand of that on food for the house, house held products and things we need over 2 years span. He spend the other amount of Taxi’s and holiday shopping and things he wanted, but he still blames me for all of it being gone.
When I tell him i’m leaving he says “great you spent all my money and now your leaving?!!” He puts this guilt on me. I didnt’ spend all his money but he thinks i did. I a few times bought myself some thi
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10months ago, we found an old dog practically freezing to death on our front porch. At first we thought she had been hit by a car but it turned out she had lost muscle control of her tongue so it constantly hangs out 4″ out of her mouth. It doesn’t seem to bother her as long as she has water to keep it moist-and she can eat without any problems. She was covered in fleas like I have never seen in my life (and I used to work at the SPCA!) and was missing most of her hair from scratching and rubbing at the flea bites. She also had sores everywhere from the bites and her teeth were completely rotten out of her mouth. We called the shelters and pug rescue and had her scanned at our local vet office to no avail. The shelters were going to put her down and we just couldn’t bear that because she is soooo incredibly sweet and it wasn’t fair for her to have lived so long and then die in fear and pain. We brought her in even though we already have 2 other dogs and a cat and nursed her back to health. She improved dramatically. The vet said she was 90% deaf and blind in one eye. Still, she is an angel and we decided to do our best to make the rest of her life as comfortable as possible. Now, 10 months later she is blind in the other eye as well. She spooks at any sudden movement and can’t hear at all. I feel like her quality of life is low and I don’t want to wait for her to be miserable before letting her go peacefully. But I just don’t know if it’s the right time. A part of me is tired of having to care for her. Because of her rotten teeth, she smells horribly and I am constantly having to wash her bedding and bathe her just to be able to be in the same room as her. (The vet says it is too dangerous to operate on her because she is so old and the surgery would be $800). She needs eye drops constantly or they get covered in pus. She sheds constantly… I feel like my thoughts are pure in considering euthanasia-that it’s for her benefit but there is a small part of me that is nagging and making me question my motivations. I cannot bear to put her down and be riddled with guilt but at the same time, just watching her walk into walls and scurry away whenever there is movement near her is unbearable. She seems chipper and happy when we play with her but most of the time she just sleeps. I am so torn and I know this is a weird and difficult question but can anyone offer any advice?
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