My Husband Has Lesions On His Head And Is Rapidly Losing His Sanity. I’m Worried. What Should I Do?
Posted by: Alan in Cat Health Problem, tags: Head, Husband, Lesions, Losing, Rapidly, Sanity, Should, What, Worried
This is a very emotional subject for me. So, I am going to try explain without getting myself too worked up.
He has these nine rather very hard large lesions (one of them is about 3 inches lone and one inch high) on his skull mostly on the left side. He has refused for a very long time to get them looked at saying they have been there since the age of 12. During the time I have known him the bumps have gotten bigger. He has also become irrational, aggressive, seclusive, abusive (physically, emotionally, sexually ect.), and generally sociopathic. I talked to a doctor and family friend regarding these behavioral changes and was told that it is highly likely that the bumps (whatever they mat be) are probably pressing against the brain causing it to miss-fire. I was further told that the probability of bumps of that size not being a major possibly terminal health factor (aka bone or scalp cancer) is low but no one can tell me without them going to CAT scan/MRI. I begged and pleaded for them to go to a doctor but they refused again. I told him that I loved him and would be there no matter what, that I just wanted him to be healthy and seek help so I don’t wake up next to a corpse. He became paranoid, constantly asking me if I was going to kill them for moral reasons and became terribly concerned with me institutionalizing them. After a day or two his stance switched entirely and he asked me to take his life. Needless to say, things progressed to a point were I no longer felt safe. One day, consumed with guilt he asked me to leave because he realized how badly he treated me and felt that he would only ever negatively effect me. When I talked to him since he told me he had in fact scheduled an MRI and are seeking a mental health professional but when I asked he was not able to give me a date saying that “he does not remember when it is”. We are separated but still in contact. I am afraid that he will not go/has not made the appointment at all. He has no health insurance and does not want to be “monitored by the system”.
I just want him to get help. I am lost and alone and have many of my own problems. What can I do?
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December 31st, 2009 at 2:04 pm
Does your husband have realtives? friends?
What you need is to make sure of that you are not alone in your situation. – If you are a group (team) acting together things will be better all concerned.
What to do is up to you all to decide together.
One alternative is to share the situation with for example an officer in the Salvation Army. – This Army knows guys/girls in similar situations as you are describing here above and they could find a way to approach your husband. Convince him to act.
I do not know but I had tried something like this before I contact the authorities.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:10 pm
I’d suggest contacting your local Social Services office. Explain to them that you believe he’s a danger to himself and society (if he’s being irrational and abusive, that’s the truth). There may be a way to have him temporarily “committed”, long enough to be sure that he can get a diagnosis.
December 31st, 2009 at 11:24 pm
look for medical help, and pray. u don’t deserve abuse, and he doesn’t deserve to have his medical needs not taken care of.
if he will not go, try social services and see what they can do for u.
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