Comments on: What Do I Do About My Jealous Cat Towards My Spouse?

By: bunanabe

bunanabe — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:19:53 +0000

jealousy. thats what it is. get a Feliway plug-in. it will help her relax. it stops cat aggression and anxiety.
also, give her extra attention when he isn’t there to show her that she is still loved.

By: danielle

danielle — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 08:39:51 +0000

I’d say get rid of the spouse by any means necessary since I’m assuming the cat was there first. Cats have like a sixth sense about people. He’s probably a bad person and she’s just trying to save you from him. You should probably thank her once he’s gone. Get her some treats or something nice

By: porwest

porwest — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 07:21:05 +0000

Meet Sneakers. If you want to you can hop over to MySpace where I posted a video of my wife’s cat, Sneakers. It’s at http://www.myspace.com/jimbauer – just click on ‘videos’ and it’ll take you there. You can also read a comical blog I wrote on my experience with the cat. Believe me, it was no picnic.
Anyway, I had exactly the same problem when my wife moved in (we weren’t married then), and it got so bad it almost cost us our marriage. I was ready to lay down the law. Either the cat goes or I do.
Anyway, we’re both still here and things have improved over time. My guess here is that the cat will eventually adapt. It may never be a loving relationship (Sneakers and I are okay when the wife is around, but no good when she’s not), but it WILL get better.http://www.springboardblog.blogspot.com

By: Jim L

Jim L — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:41:10 +0000

how does he treat her when your not around?

By: btownznd

btownznd — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 22:50:25 +0000

It sounds like the cat can sense that your spouse doesn’t care for her. Almost anxious with him around rather then jealous. Our cat is jealous. She will squeeze in between us at night or on the couch if we’re cuddling.
I suggest finding out how your spouse really feels bout your cat. Perhaps he could bring her favorite treat? Wet catfood or catnip toy? That might help??

By: Darren E

Darren E — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:57:57 +0000

It will probably take time. I was never a cat person before marriage. I’m lucky that our cat was never jealous, just very people-shy. It took a week-long moving trip from California to here, plus about six weeks, before our Hobbes became totally comfortable with my presence. (Ironically, now he’s VERY social, and is happy to meet anyone who comes into our house. My wife tells me before we got married, he would do nothing but hide whenever anyone else was in her apartment. And, in fact, he did that until he got to know me.)
Anyway, one suggestion that might work (if you have feeding times with wet food): Let your cat get hungry – NOT starving, just wait like a half hour to forty-five minutes past her normal feeding time. Then let your husband open the can and put it there. Then he sits about ten feet away until she comes to eat, if possible. Do this for a few days and let her adjust into the idea that your hubby now feeds her. Hopefully she’ll make the connection that the one who feeds her is probably OK.
Good luck to you!

By: cryptoti

cryptoti — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:46:49 +0000

That looks to me like a case of cat jealousy. She has gotten used to your domestic situation, and she resents the change. The good side of the situation is that cats will addapt. Just hang in there, be yourself, and the cat will make the change. Do NOT go out of your way to make changes, this will only make her more upst.